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Ok so I called, had a small chat and then asked her if she wanted to do something fun.

-... (silence) ... depends on what it is
oh I don't know...
- well, come up with something!
hm maybe a restaurant or something like that
- ah ok. Hm you surprise me a bit, I'll have to think about it
yeah sure! let me hear when you know!
- I will!
Bye etc.

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Word to the wise.
Next time you ask someone if they want to do something fun.
You should have that something fun picked out in advance.

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Unless you're willing to default to "sexy time".

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I'm flattered Vamp, but this.. is akward...

So let's pretend it never happened. :p

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That probably went through her head wondering WTF he meant when the silence hit :lolz:

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Hehe possible. :D

Haven't heard of her yet. I'm starting to fear for an e-mail. Well, that doesn't have to be bad. We'll see. I'm not as scared as before I asked.

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It usually takes the first step to let all the weight off. Let's hope for the best.

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Ok, latest update: she sent me a text-message to tell me she'll call me tomorrow (she's too tired atm). Sleep tight! etc.

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So, your game plan is to figure out a kick ass restaurant to take her out to, and when you talk to her on the phone tomorrow ask her out to it. And, you need to clarify that this is a date. Clarify that YOU are taking her out.

Also...you don't want to go out with a loaded gun...have you seen There's Something About Mary...? ;)

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Ah good point, picking a restaurant. There's a good Greek one here in my town. There's also a good pizzeria, but a friend said that's not romantic enough (I don't see why, I've been there and it's pretty nice).

But I don't really want to let her come to my town. That way she'll probably also want to pick me up with her car. I feel like it hurts me in my independence and manly behavior.

There are some restaurants in a town between hers and mine, but I don't know the good ones. But I could ask a friend who lives there.
I could also go for one where she lives... but the closer we get to her, the bigger the chance she's already been there.

And no, driving over to her to pick her up with my car isn't an option. No license, no car. :D

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Ok, she called me back. Had a small chat and then she said she had been thinking. She thinks it's better to do something with a group, so we don't get too high expectations. And she doesn't really know me that well yet.
So no date. Yet. But we'll see eachother again. :)

I wonder how I should understand that.

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Some final comments before we let this thread die a pieceful death?

I thought about it. First of all, she had to think about it. At least half a day. So there was something to think about.
Secondly, if I really didn't have a chance, she would have said it otherwise, right? ("I'm not ready for a relationship... Really, it's not you, it's me! Blabla.")
Thirdly, it was a very relaxed phone call. I stayed cool and I agreed with her. I mean, within our religion it's really a sensible decision.

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plz explain

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We see relationships as something for the long-term. We also believe the promise of the bible that we can receive eternal life on earth. So we're not really in a hurry. And of course we don't have sex before marriage.

Also we're encouraged to get to know how we are in groups. You usually act differently when you're together alone with somebody.
And like she said, this way we (and others?) won't have too high expectations from this.

I received a nice e-mail back tonight. She told me about her day etc. Was a happy mail.

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The negative side of me feels kind of mixed about how it's going, but I don't listen to it.

You're right on those points that you mentioned earlier. Things could essentially go somewhere when you have this group thing, but you also have to remember that you can't bring yourself towards her when you're with the group. Give her space, and take the time to meet new people, etc.