[Revival]

sdtPikachu's post:

Hey ho, back into the fore...

"Well, in my opinion - having sex before you're an adult is a mistake."

How do you define "adult"? What is the magical age where you pass from being alone and inexperienced about everything to having a full and total understanding of your whole being?

Personlly, I think the "correct" age to have sex is the one where you're able to handle the emotional and physical consequences.

As most of you will know, I don't have any religious obligations to perform thus this is purely what I think.

I don't believe in marriage - in my opinion it's just another way in which organised religion a) tried to create a stable society and b) attempted to control natural sexual urges. We are sexual beings. We are not designed to have sex with only one person in our entire lives. It is counter to what sex is all about; the sex drive is an evolutionary throwback to spreading your mucky little genes about as much as possible.

I've met people 14 years old who I'd say were ready for sex; they are emotionaly responsible, have done alot of thinking about it and want to do it for all thr right reasons. I've also met people over 30 who still haven't attained what I see as enough responsibility.

Sex isn't just about kids; like it or not, it's an essential part of every relationship I know of. In fact, much as I disagree with them, there are many I know who consider sex to be the most important thing in one.

"Sex before marriage is wrong in any ways you put it"

Wrong. This is not a fact; it is an opinion, and one I disagree with. Until you've found yourself in bed with someone in that way, you'll never know what it feels like will you? I know plenty of people who've changed their minds about people after sex; not because the sex was bad, or even because the sex was good, but because it's when you see someone totally exposed to you in every way possible - in many respects, this is what can be so sexy about the whole thing. Take away the orgasm and sex would still be great. It's not just all about having a good f**k - anyone who thinks that is, in my opinion, not emotionally mature enough.

Mike, I don't think good sex = love or vice versa; I've managed to fall in love without ever having sex with someone. Love is a helluva lot more than a bit of the old inowt inowt.

Pregnancies? Like Fez says, almost all are due to people being stupid and not taking precautions; if you don't want to be bogged down with 57 kids by the age of 20, always ALWAYS use a condom. It'll also help you prevent yourself from catching any nasty STD's (waits for joke... gets none... moves on).

Once you're in a stable relationship, I think it's OK for the guy to dispense with the condom if his girl is on the pill; most partners prefer sex without a condom, but remember just one missed pill can cause a pregnancy, and it's either the not-very-nice maorning after pill or the even more not-very-nice of an abortion; either that or you've got a sprog on your hands.

If you do have unprotected sex, just make sure both you and your partner get a blood test done. I don't know what it's like with the crappy health system in the states, but here they are free. If any nasty diseases are lurking in your nether regions, a simple test will tell you or not. It's not a good idea to give the girl you love a dose of chlamydia if you want the relationship to continue.

"you need to think about what could happen"

Yes, you do.

"most parents probably wouldn't approve."

Usually cos they're too worried about their offsprings current emotional maturity. This is a poor excuse; my parents brought me up to be independent, and they trust my judgement over matteras concerning me.

"Meh, i dont think its a big deal"

I totally agree. Modern society has souped sex up to be all sorts of things; one thing it isn't is the be all and end all, although there's many advertising companies who'd like to persuade you otherwise. Sex is just a way of making babies; the orgasm is just to get you to keep doing it.

The whole point about relationships is that they're relationships. Note the lack of the words "sex" and "life" from that last sentence.

"Shooting blanks is wrong"

Umm... what do you mean by this? That wearing a condom is wrong? Or that you don't think a guy should have sex if he's infertile?

In either case I find it impossible to see your POV.

"I'll always be proud of holding back..."

Good for you; if it's your choice, stick with it.

"...and I'll always know that I am right in being so"

Only in your opinion I'm afraid. This isn't a "black and white" issue.

"Pregnancys come from stupid ****s, and we shouldn't have to have laws because of stupid ****s"

In an ideal world, yes. But unfortunately the laws are to try to stop the stupid ****s from themselves; everyone who's capable of thinking for themselves gets shafted in the process. Such is the way of the world I'm afraid.

Hello again everyone by the way; I appear to be back in customary incendiary style!

Nice to be back (temporarily at the very least!)