Are you going to spank your future children?

[KillerGremlin]

[BreakABone]

Worked for my parents, and their parents and etc.

[Bube]

I already spank my future children.

[KillerGremlin]

Originally Posted by Bube

I already spank my future children.

We aren't talking about the leftovers in the paper tissue after a session you know.

[Typhoid]

Damn right I'm going to, so long as they deserve a smack.

I used to get smacked with a wooden spoon so much, that I didn't know what a wooden spoon was for. I thought it was for smacking children. When I was bad, my mom would just put the wooden spoon on the counter and I'd shut right up. Until the day I saw her making pasta sauce with the wooden spoon and proclaimed "What are you doing with the wooden spoon?" That is the day the wooden spoon lost its power.

Hitting your children puts them in their place. If you don't hit your kids when they are deserving of some type of smack, they will think they hold most of the power.

[Dylflon]

Only for necessary behavioural adjustment.

I'm sure I'll have to do it at some points but don't plan to use it as a go-to parenting tool.

[TheGame]

I plan on doing it, unless I have all girls.. in which case my wife will do it lol

[Teuthida]

No. Ethical reasons aside your kids eventually get too big to put them over your knee. Guilt trips know no age limit. I don't think I would respect my parents as much if they had hit me.

[Vampyr]

I've debated it, and I'm not morally opposed to it, but I think there are more effective methods.

Although if you do it in public, even if it's not hard, the embarrassment will probably be super effective and let them know you aren't afraid to punish them around other people.

I'd probably just pick them up and carry them out of wherever we are though, tell them what punishment they were getting later in the car, then bring them back in.

[Bond]

I suppose I view spanking as a bit of a last resort mechanism. I think there are far more effective parenting methods out there that do not include physicality, but in the event that they should fail ... I wouldn't rule out spanking.

[Angrist]

Originally Posted by Vampyr

Although if you do it in public, even if it's not hard, the embarrassment will probably be super effective and let them know you aren't afraid to punish them around other people.

Dude, punishing them in public is so wrong (spanking or no spanking).

I don't plan on spanking them. I can't imagine myself doing that, even though I got some spanking when I was young.
I plan to argue a lot with my children, explaining to them why they should or should not do stuff. I'll come up with other punishments than spanking.

And here I expected this thread to be related to training dogs. I don't know that many people who hit their dog, but apparently kids are different.

[TheGame]

Originally Posted by Angrist

Dude, punishing them in public is so wrong (spanking or no spanking).

I strongly disagree with that... omg, have you seen how some of these kids act in public? They need a level of fear in them that you will get them at any time... or they're going to act out when they can.

Now, that's not ALL kids, but you have to deal with bad ass kids to understand. You need to set boundaries, and a 2-4 year old is not going to understand reasoning..

(-EDIT- my little sister and brother, for example.. were raised under the same circumstances.. and she just happened to stay quiet/shy and good, while my brother would ALWAYS test his boundaries. Different kids need different treatment. Just the thought that someone feels upset with my sister at 3 was enough to make her sad and start acting right... my brother could give to fwords about how others felt, and would keep pushing and pushing until he got punished.)

And I know plenty of people who physically punish their dogs when they're puppies. For example... it's a common thing here for if a dog pisses on the floor in the house, to rub their face in the piss then kick them out of the house for a few days.. as a part of training.

[Angrist]

Ah I forgot about kids that deliberately misbehave because they think their parents won't punish them in public. You're right, it depends on the kid.
But if it's a shy kid and he/she makes a mistake, it would be very cruel to punish him/her in public. Just tell him/her that he/she will be punished when you get home, that should be enough.

[ARMADILLO]

Yeah I'll paddle my kids untill the day they turn 18 I wont even bring them into the bathroom to do it in public I'll just do it right then and there. and only when they are deserving and never in the face

Edit: TheGame i heard it is never a good idea to rub the dog's face in its piss it like only encourages them or something

[BreakABone]