Are you going to spank your future children?

[KillerGremlin]

[BreakABone]

Worked for my parents, and their parents and etc.

[Bube]

I already spank my future children.

[KillerGremlin]

Originally Posted by Bube

I already spank my future children.

We aren't talking about the leftovers in the paper tissue after a session you know.

[Typhoid]

Damn right I'm going to, so long as they deserve a smack.

I used to get smacked with a wooden spoon so much, that I didn't know what a wooden spoon was for. I thought it was for smacking children. When I was bad, my mom would just put the wooden spoon on the counter and I'd shut right up. Until the day I saw her making pasta sauce with the wooden spoon and proclaimed "What are you doing with the wooden spoon?" That is the day the wooden spoon lost its power.

Hitting your children puts them in their place. If you don't hit your kids when they are deserving of some type of smack, they will think they hold most of the power.

[Dylflon]

Only for necessary behavioural adjustment.

I'm sure I'll have to do it at some points but don't plan to use it as a go-to parenting tool.

[TheGame]

I plan on doing it, unless I have all girls.. in which case my wife will do it lol

[Bond]

I suppose I view spanking as a bit of a last resort mechanism. I think there are far more effective parenting methods out there that do not include physicality, but in the event that they should fail ... I wouldn't rule out spanking.

[Angrist]

Ah I forgot about kids that deliberately misbehave because they think their parents won't punish them in public. You're right, it depends on the kid.
But if it's a shy kid and he/she makes a mistake, it would be very cruel to punish him/her in public. Just tell him/her that he/she will be punished when you get home, that should be enough.

[ARMADILLO]

Yeah I'll paddle my kids untill the day they turn 18 I wont even bring them into the bathroom to do it in public I'll just do it right then and there. and only when they are deserving and never in the face

Edit: TheGame i heard it is never a good idea to rub the dog's face in its piss it like only encourages them or something

[BreakABone]

[ARMADILLO]

Your video doesn't work, BreakABone. well not for me anyways

[manasecret]

I find waving the gun around does the trick.

But seriously, I believe in the Dog Whisperer's philosophy about dogs. You have to be a pack leader exuding calm, assertive energy, and dogs pick up on that attitude and fall in line.

Kids at a young age work the same way -- they run on instinct and what they subconsciously glean from your actions . If you have to beat your kid, then you've already lost the argument. You're out of ideas to make them stop, and so you take the lazy, seemingly easy way out. Seemingly easy because I think in the long run it just makes things worse and doesn't accomplish what you want.

Of course, just as with dogs, there are going to be the violent/super-misbehaving ones that this simply won't work with. But they're the outliers. And even with them, I don't think beating them is the solution. Professional help with the kid is the answer.

A psychological spank is far more effective than a physical spank.

[TheGame]

mana, I think a person is going to be who they're going to be if they're whooped or not. I know people who are bad ass who never got whooped, and people who are bad ass and did get whooped. And I know people who are angels and didn't get whooped, and people who are angels and did get whooped...

To me the only time a spanking is nessicary is if you get one of those type A personality kids where you need to instantly shut down what they're doing, or if they cross the line so hard that you need to set a pysical boundary.

Unfortunately I don't buy into the whole "kids are like puppies" arguements. The personality range of a human being raised under the same circumstances with the same rules is a lot wider then a simple dog. While I'd agree that we and dogs alike are a product of our environment to a great extent, humans perception of their environment can be completely different under the same circumstances.

[Teuthida]

I'm curious how cyclical this is.

How many of you who were hit aren't going to hit your kids and how many of you who weren't hit are going to hit your kids?