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02-02-2005, 10:52 AM
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Why is it so hard...
...to say that you like someone? To say those three words "I love you"? Have you ever thought about it?
I found out why I did after some hours of talking about this with my ex-girlfriend, when she was "just a friend" (a long time ago ).
Let's assume that I don't know how she feels about me. When I tell this person that I like her, it seems to me that she would get upset. You know those "go home, lie on bed and cry for hours" most females like to do. I wouldn't want to do something like that to a person I like, and that's why saying "I love you" is so hard for me.
What is it that makes it so hard for you?
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02-02-2005, 11:25 AM
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Re: Why is it so hard...
well, for most people it's the fear of rejection to tell someone you like/love them. for me i guess it would be the same. but not anymore, now i don't fear it, first of all because i allready have the best girl in the world for me and second because even if i do get rejected i would just be like "eh? k...at least i tried" wouldn't really affect me much.
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02-02-2005, 11:36 AM
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Re: Why is it so hard...
I always had that fear of rejection when it came to telling someone that I like them (for the first time).
As far as saying "I love you" it is definately a big thing to say, especially if you're not sure that the other person feels as strongly about it as you do.
But it still all boils down to a fear of rejection.
And I know what you mean about the crying bit.... I do it too, unfortunately
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02-02-2005, 11:39 AM
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Re: Why is it so hard...
i dont think its hard...i just dont think i would....ive never seen a point in making moves when i dont get the right vibes....i usually wait for when its really obvious.....if not i just flirt...or casually say it...like...*haha ....your so sweet...i love u*....
and then c what happens
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02-02-2005, 12:47 PM
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Re: Why is it so hard...
If you say it in a casual manner you might be able to evade the other person taking it too seriously. Then after saying it casually a couple times, you can trying saying it in a more serious, sincere manner.
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02-02-2005, 12:51 PM
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Re: Why is it so hard...
Sounds tricky. It isn't good to trick people.
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02-02-2005, 01:19 PM
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Re: Why is it so hard...
It all has to do with rejection and self-confidence. If you are confident in yourself for who you are, it is easier to tell someone you like/love them.
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02-02-2005, 01:43 PM
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Re: Why is it so hard...
I havent had this problem yet (down the road I shall....) but its more of the fear factor to it all
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02-02-2005, 02:29 PM
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Re: Why is it so hard...
The fear of rejection...
but there is also the fear of comittment... as a result of her accepting your will, and being attached to that person.
then after awhile, you realize... there is a question of whether you DO love her or not.
But in any case... all those factors come into play for me... I'd have to be REALLY infatuated by a girl to say those three words.
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02-02-2005, 06:16 PM
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Re: Why is it so hard...
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Originally Posted by jeepnut's slave
I always had that fear of rejection when it came to telling someone that I like them (for the first time).
As far as saying "I love you" it is definately a big thing to say, especially if you're not sure that the other person feels as strongly about it as you do.
But it still all boils down to a fear of rejection.
And I know what you mean about the crying bit.... I do it too, unfortunately
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Well, yes, "love" is too strong, you're right. I was talking about saying whatever you'd say to start a relationship (I've seen so different and funny things ).
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02-02-2005, 09:33 PM
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Re: Why is it so hard...
The problem is... most of the people I liked/loved before my current relationship already had someone else on their minds. OR someone else that I know of fancies them too. So as usual, me being stuck in the middle, I'd rather back away slowly and just forget about it...
Of course, then you have the fear of rejection too...
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02-02-2005, 09:46 PM
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Re: Why is it so hard...
I've told one girl, and one girl only that I loved her, and its only hard the first time.
Because you dont know how the other person will react.
Like, even when she said it to me, I could tell she was nervous. By the way she was acting.
Its so hard because of what the word means. Love is to care unconditionally for someone.
Yet loving someone, and Being In love with someone are totally different things.
I love 2 of my Girl friends, this doesnt mean I'm in love with them though. To secure that argument, I love my parents, sisters and brother, yet I dont plan on dating any of them ever.
Im jaded now though. Because I tell every girl I love her. Not in a serious way, all the time, When I say it Im usually joking, or I mean it in the way of a friend.
Despite the lack of feelings, it still changes it for you.
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02-02-2005, 10:02 PM
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Re: Why is it so hard...
Telling someone that you love them is sometimes an easy thing for people to do.
For me I never said it in a meaningful way until recently.
It was one of the hardest things I've ever done.
I told myself I wouldn't say it unless I really thought I meant it. I think I did mean it this time. I think I mean it everytime I say it.
I think love is a word too often tossed around by people. It's not something you should take so lightly, but I feel it often is.
It was so hard for me to say it before, but now that I am in love, it's not a big deal at all, because it's never a big deal to tell the truth.
I think if it's really love, you'll know, and you wont have a problem with letting them know too, because you know they feel the same way.
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02-02-2005, 10:03 PM
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Re: Why is it so hard...
You know what else can be hard, is having someone say it to you and you don't want to say it back... but you know they expect you to. I've been there, and it was tough.
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Can you imagine what it's like to starve to death
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Tell my wife and children I love them in his last breath
C'mon now amen, amen, amen
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02-02-2005, 10:34 PM
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Re: Why is it so hard...
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Originally Posted by jeepnut's slave
You know what else can be hard, is having someone say it to you and you don't want to say it back... but you know they expect you to. I've been there, and it was tough.
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I've been there also, I know how it feels.
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