Interesting Moral Question...

Perfect Stu · 01-15-2004, 07:46 PM

Ok...

A man and a woman are married for 10 years. Suddenly, the woman no longer wants sex. Should the man be allowed to endure PURELY sexual relationships with other women if his wife denies him of that?

GameMaster · 01-15-2004, 07:56 PM

Yes, but I think it would be hard for someone to keep the relationship purely pleasure, and not fall in love with the person and stuff.

Dyne · 01-15-2004, 07:59 PM

It's what they had in Japan for a long time. A "wife" is known as a consort. The consort basically is the woman of the house.. she takes care of all the cooking, cleaning, and whatever pleasure the man wants. He can have anyone--even little boys, if they wanted. O_o But the point is, those relationships are more based on the support of eachother than that of love. In Japan, I don't even think they have a word for love, at least the western definition.

If they married more for love than support, then no. If not, then probably, yes.

Vampyr · 01-15-2004, 08:03 PM

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Originally Posted by GameMaster

Yes, but I think it would be hard for someone to keep the relationship purely pleasure, and not fall in love with the person and stuff.

I will have to disagree and agree.

I disagree that the man should be allowed to do that, but I agree with the part about them keeping it purely pleasurable.

The reason I think the man should not be allowed is because I think it's just not right. Call me a romantic, but I believe you stick the the person you love even if you cant have sex with them.

*shruggs*

I have a long time before I have to worry about such trivial matters.

[edit] after reading what Dyne said, I will have to say that if you married someone and you dont love them, than going to another woman for pleasure really isnt too bad. But I dont believe in marrying someone for support, I believe in marrying someone because you love them.

Its a paradox.

Dyne · 01-15-2004, 08:15 PM

Well.. your taxes are easier on you if you're married, aren't they? That could be one factor in staying together. And it's cheaper to room, and it's better for food.

I guess the idea of "support" just sounds wrong in America. You don't marry them for support here, though you may end up being in that situation. If you hate the person though, you divorce them. Divorce should be the last idea in anyone's head--but in the 90's it got really bad and it became a trend. It's too bad.

Joeiss · 01-15-2004, 08:51 PM

Does the wife know that he is doing this sexual activity? If she does, then it is alright, but if not... I dunno...

Rndm_Perfection · 01-15-2004, 09:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Perfect Stu

Ok...

A man and a woman are married for 10 years. Suddenly, the woman no longer wants sex. Should the man be allowed to endure PURELY sexual relationships with other women if his wife denies him of that?

Is this under the assumption that he has no hands?

Professor S · 01-15-2004, 09:22 PM

No.

Frigid wives are the reason God gave us porn and opposable thumbs.

Yoda9864 · 01-16-2004, 01:37 AM

No. Marraige is a sacred bond between two people and two people only. It is not meant to be based on sex, but on love. If that man really loved his wife, he would choose not have sex with other people. If he felt compelled to have sex with other people, then he does not deserve to be married to that woman and should get a divorce.

GameMaster · 01-16-2004, 01:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Perfect Stu

Should the man be allowed to endure PURELY sexual relationships with other women if his wife denies him of that?

That is not for him to decide. All he has to decide is what to do with the time that is given to him. - Gandalf

CrOnO_LiNk · 01-16-2004, 01:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Perfect Stu

Ok...

A man and a woman are married for 10 years. Suddenly, the woman no longer wants sex. Should the man be allowed to endure PURELY sexual relationships with other women if his wife denies him of that?

Damn Stu, this is a really good question. I never really thought about it.

One thing for sure is that I would never ever want to cheat on my girlfriend/wife. It would totally suck, think about her doing the same thing to you, but no sex is like a f***ed up nightmare.

I'd say if your wife really loves you, she wouldn't want to stop having sex.

Shadow_Link · 01-16-2004, 06:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Yoda9864

No. Marraige is a sacred bond between two people and two people only. It is not meant to be based on sex, but on love. If that man really loved his wife, he would choose not have sex with other people. If he felt compelled to have sex with other people, then he does not deserve to be married to that woman and should get a divorce.

Marriage is a two way thing. If the wife suddenly decided to stop having sex, then there must be a 'reason' for it. That reason could be the cause of many other problems, and thus result in a rather shaky marriage until the problem is confronted and solved. This doesn't mean the sole purpose of marriage is sex, ofcourse it isn't, but it's a means of expression/communication, emotional and physical.

What I'm saying is, the wife not wanting sex would lead to other problems, and if the husband hasn't an idea why, it doesn't seem as though the two can communicate, let alone trust eachother, so why should they continue their marriage?
If the wife denies the husband of sex, he can just do the same and deny her of something else, it'll end really nasty. (THAT is IF they've had a good sex life from the beginning of their marriage).

Interesting question, let me just end by saying sacrifices must be made in marriage, you're in it to make eachother happy.

Perfect Stu · 01-16-2004, 07:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Shadow_Link

Interesting question, let me just end by saying sacrifices must be made in marriage, you're in it to make eachother happy.

I think you really nailed it there.

If the woman doesn't want sex with the man, but they still love and respect each other and would love to, say, raise a child or two children they already have...I think the woman has no reason to stop the man from persuing a sexual relationship.

Ace195 · 01-16-2004, 01:16 PM

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Originally Posted by The Strangler

No.

Frigid wives are the reason God gave us porn and opposable thumbs.

Amen to that

lol,, I would have to say no. I mean if she just one day decieded no more sex I would re evalutate if I actually love this woman and then if no then I would definaltley move on then find another and if yes I would stay there until hell itself froze over

Canyarion · 01-16-2004, 03:05 PM

It's wrong of the woman to not wanna have sex. Can't really blame the man then... even though I still think it's wrong.

If a woman doesn't want it, there's probably something wrong with it and they should look for other possibilities... perhaps the man is a lousy lover?