Marriage

dropCGCF · 01-14-2005, 04:54 PM

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Originally Posted by jeepnut's slave

Marriage is a life-long commitment and is not something I want to take lightly.

A close friend of mine's girlfriend is discussing their "future". They've been together 5 months.

I've been with my woman for over a year and I still don't plan on anything yet. People need to take more time to decide if that person is really the one they want to marry. If you bitch about how your girlfriend treats you, you're obviously not ready to think about marriage.

And the Catholic Church's stance on it is unnacceptable. But that's just my opinion.

Stray_Bullet · 01-14-2005, 05:04 PM

Got maturity, dedication, and honesty? If so, then the couple's emotionally prepared.

I'd marry my gal (I fear not commitment!), but I don't even have a job anymore... and I've got a lot of stuff to pay for, so I'll wait until I do my college transfer (likely after two years of Community College). Though I'd like to before that :/

Ginkasa · 01-14-2005, 05:05 PM

Well, I personally think people shouldn't get married at least until they're past college (and other forms of schooling) and are at least 20.

While the entire ideal around marriage is to *cough* "eternally" be with the one you love, it has a lot of other stuff around it that has to be considered as well. It costs money for one, and I certainly don't think a lot of fresh high school grads or college students would be able to afford it.

I also think a couple should at least know each other for a couple of years before they ever consider marriage, much less actually dating. How oculd you possibly know if you want to spend the...err...rest of your life with someone if you haven't known them but for a few months?

And with at least being twenty... I just don't think a lot of people my age realize or are ready for it all. There are seniors who know that they're going to marry their boyfriend/girlfriend of two weeks, even though they broke up with a previous "fiance" only days before the new relationship. While that's hardly everybody, you still some stuff like that in a whole lot of high school relationships, and I hardly doubt anything changes soon after graduation.

*shrugs and walks away*

DimHalo · 01-14-2005, 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by dropCGCF

And the Catholic Church's stance on it is unnacceptable. But that's just my opinion.

Just curious, but was that a personal stab?

You quoted me, and I am Catholic...

dropCGCF · 01-14-2005, 06:58 PM

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Originally Posted by jeepnut's slave

Just curious, but was that a personal stab?

You quoted me, and I am Catholic...

No. I had no prior knowledge of your beliefs and I am sorry to have offended them if I did. Not a personal stab. I would have threatened you if it was.

DimHalo · 01-14-2005, 07:22 PM

Ok, just checking

Yan · 01-14-2005, 08:47 PM

I got the impression that most people on this forum are mature enough to handle a lot of issues stemming from relationships.

I used to post online on a teen forum and you wouldn't believe some of the tools you see there. You have kids who are 14 and 15, claiming that they are in love and engaged. With someone they just met 2 weeks ago.

I am not saying that this (i.e. finding someone you truly love in 2 weeks) is not possible but sometimes it pays to be more practical. There are enough Britneys and Jennifers in this world already!

Maybe that's why I don't go there anymore...

Marriage is definitely something I am looking at when my relationship hits a certain point. However, like what I told my mom who fears that I may be over commiting myself to one person (at this age), "We are deciding on what to eat for lunch and not which house to buy."

KillerGremlin · 01-16-2005, 12:49 AM

Well, here's my stance.

The foundation of marriage is supposed to be love. Love is supposed to be a non-material thing, however, I'm willing to argue that being financially stable and having an education will help to prolong whatever love you have. It's not so much that you need to be a certain age to get married, it's that most 16, 17 and 18 year olds are still moronic teenagers that not only cannot support themselves, but are still arrogant and always think that everything they think is right.

Hypothetically, a marriage could work at an early age. It's happened before, it's going to happen again. Realisitcally...well, that depends on the scenario.

I'm all for marriage too....I'm not sure why someone wouldn't be.....unless they where going to be the next Hefner or something...so yeah. Go marriage!

DimHalo · 01-16-2005, 10:20 AM

I was just thinking about the comments about age:

I am now 22 years old, and I can remember back when I was 16,17 or even when I was 18,19 and I know for a fact that I would not have been able to handle marriage. And I have always been a very mature person.

Although I do know that it could work for some, it wouldn't have worked for me and it didn't work for my sister... so my opinion is it is very uncommon.