Marriage

[DimHalo]

Ok, just checking

[Yan]

I got the impression that most people on this forum are mature enough to handle a lot of issues stemming from relationships.

I used to post online on a teen forum and you wouldn't believe some of the tools you see there. You have kids who are 14 and 15, claiming that they are in love and engaged. With someone they just met 2 weeks ago.

I am not saying that this (i.e. finding someone you truly love in 2 weeks) is not possible but sometimes it pays to be more practical. There are enough Britneys and Jennifers in this world already!

Maybe that's why I don't go there anymore...

Marriage is definitely something I am looking at when my relationship hits a certain point. However, like what I told my mom who fears that I may be over commiting myself to one person (at this age), "We are deciding on what to eat for lunch and not which house to buy."

[KillerGremlin]

Well, here's my stance.

The foundation of marriage is supposed to be love. Love is supposed to be a non-material thing, however, I'm willing to argue that being financially stable and having an education will help to prolong whatever love you have. It's not so much that you need to be a certain age to get married, it's that most 16, 17 and 18 year olds are still moronic teenagers that not only cannot support themselves, but are still arrogant and always think that everything they think is right.

Hypothetically, a marriage could work at an early age. It's happened before, it's going to happen again. Realisitcally...well, that depends on the scenario.

I'm all for marriage too....I'm not sure why someone wouldn't be.....unless they where going to be the next Hefner or something...so yeah. Go marriage!

[DimHalo]

I was just thinking about the comments about age:

I am now 22 years old, and I can remember back when I was 16,17 or even when I was 18,19 and I know for a fact that I would not have been able to handle marriage. And I have always been a very mature person.

Although I do know that it could work for some, it wouldn't have worked for me and it didn't work for my sister... so my opinion is it is very uncommon.

[Su-Yin]

why would someone trap themselves in so much commitment and responsibility at such a young age.....i feel if u love someone...very well....be with him/her and be happy....but when you get married at 16-19 ish....all is wasted...youth is wasted......the very few best years of your life....will b spent on doing the same s*** you will be doing for the rest of your life...... WHY?!.....i feel if you're destined to b together....you will at the end of the day....if the feeling of love is mutually strong...there is no need to bond yourselves together in marriage just to prove that the relationship you share is secure...*shrug* thats what i feel.

[Canyarion]

To the one that said people can change in a year: people will always keep changing. It's about how you deal with that. That's what matters more in a relation, I think.

[DimHalo]

Yes, but the big changes occur after you really start to get close to someone. They take down their barriers. So, that is why I said a year is not long enough. Of course people always change, but its those early changes that are most important.