My parents are divorcing.

ulala06 · 10-29-2006, 11:04 AM

my parents "split up" but were kind of reconciling and my dad KILLED my mom... so you know... divorce is sometimes a VERY good thing.

but yea, i'm not saying that's gonna happen... I know lots of people whose parents are quite happily divorced and actually get along BETTER because of it.

chin up.

thatmariolover · 10-29-2006, 11:48 AM

My parents split up a while back. I mean, they were never particularly overt with their hostility but I guess I just sort of saw it coming.

I had convinced myself that it was for the best and honestly just wasn't that worried about it. I went on feeling fine until a girl from Drama asked me out and started talking to me about it and I got all choked up. Which was a total shock to me because I didn't know how bothered by it I had really been until I talked it over with somebody who cared. And then I guess I really did feel okay about it; it just seemed natural.

Anyway, I won't say I hope they stay together. But I will say that whatever happens - I genuinely hope you can find a way to be happy with it.

Dylflon · 10-29-2006, 06:59 PM

That seems random and bizarre to me. But I guess I don't really know anything about your parents. If you need anything like game playing time or man hugs, just let me know.

Typhoid · 10-29-2006, 07:34 PM

Dylan, why are you making everything so gay today?

Crash · 10-30-2006, 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by ulala06

my parents "split up" but were kind of reconciling and my dad KILLED my mom... so you know... divorce is sometimes a VERY good thing.

but yea, i'm not saying that's gonna happen... I know lots of people whose parents are quite happily divorced and actually get along BETTER because of it.

chin up.

I've read this 3 times, and I'm still not sure what you're saying here. (or maybe I do, and I'm pretending not to understand because it sounds horrible)

But Dyne, I can't say I've been in that spot before, but I know what it's like to have parents that don't get along, and seperate. If they physically fight (like my parents would) it is for the better that they separate. Just take care of yourself, and let your parents work it out themselves.

Dyne · 10-30-2006, 02:06 PM

Thank you so much for the thoughts everyone.

And yeah, it's going relatively smoothly; it could be way worse. My dad just signed the lease on his new apartment yesterday.

GameMaster · 10-30-2006, 04:05 PM

So sorry Phil.

Was this something you saw coming or did they just drop a heartbreaking surprise on you and your brother one day?

Perfect Stu · 10-30-2006, 05:54 PM

I've been through some family problems myself...my advice would just be to support everyone in your family with your love, and to keep doing your own thing. School, work, whatever that is. Keep up with it, keep yourself busy.

ulala06 · 10-31-2006, 09:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Crash

I've read this 3 times, and I'm still not sure what you're saying here. (or maybe I do, and I'm pretending not to understand because it sounds horrible)

But Dyne, I can't say I've been in that spot before, but I know what it's like to have parents that don't get along, and seperate. If they physically fight (like my parents would) it is for the better that they separate. Just take care of yourself, and let your parents work it out themselves.

1. my parents split up
2. my parents were trying to talk through some issues
3. my father shot my mother in the back with a hand gun
4. my mother died
5. i was an orphan at 7 1/2 years old.

yes?

Crash · 10-31-2006, 11:12 AM

wow. I'm glad you were able to get through that. You are a very strong person. That's just horrible to have happen to anyone, I can't even fathom.

ulala06 · 10-31-2006, 12:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Crash

wow. I'm glad you were able to get through that. You are a very strong person. That's just horrible to have happen to anyone, I can't even fathom.

thanks, i was in therapy (against my will) until i was like 10, and finally i was just like "please can i just not do this anymore, it's stupid and i think i know myself better than this "counselour" and so i didn't go anymore

i like to think i turned out okay. *shrug*

The Germanator · 11-01-2006, 03:13 PM

My parents divorced back when I was in second grade or so. I think it was harder to deal with back then, but there actually ended up being more issues after the divorce like with my dad and stuff. Now it's pretty much fine though, I don't know. You'll get used to it and get through it. It's been that way most of my life though, so maybe it's a bit easier.