How much is too much ?

[Vampyr]

I've only had a few drinks of anything alcoholic in my entire life. Never enough to have any affect on me at all. I just wanted to see what it tasted like, so I took a drink. The only thing I ever liked was this fruit drink thing. I had a drink of wine once, and it was good too. Ive never even taken a drink of beer though, it smells very nasty.

My g/f dumped me a couple weeks ago also, but I did not drink her away. What I did was slept, and typed. You might want to try it, thatmariolover. Just open Microsoft Word and start typing. Type about how you feel, you will be impressed with what you come up with. Another reason for doing this is that I did not want to forget how I felt during those moments of grief. She was my first g/f ever, and I wanted to be able to come back later and remember how I felt.

It also helps to tell other people how you feel.

I still love her, and I told her so. It kills me to know that she dumped me because she was too stressed out. She is a senior, and I respect the fact that she has A LOT of things to do. College, scholarships, etc... But to know that I am without her because of no fault of my own...that sucks.

Im not going to get off on a wild tangent about my sorrow, but it does help to tell people. It helps a lot. I told her how I felt, and I see hope in the future of her coming back.

[Perfect Stu]

I drink, but I've never really been DRUNK. I'm a 265lb Irishman...I hear it takes a lot. I love the buzz, though, that I get from either a few beers/glasses of wine, or the hard stuff. I have a lot of friends that get totally wasted...like, the female friends I have...I could easily take advantage of them. (of course I would never do that...but the fact is that I could if I wanted to...and I know lots of guys like to do that sh*t)

Anyway...drinking is fun as long as you keep yourself under control...

[Rndm_Perfection]

Originally Posted by Vampyr

Just open Microsoft Word and start typing. Type about how you feel, you will be impressed with what you come up with. Another reason for doing this is that I did not want to forget how I felt during those moments of grief.

Very, very good advice. I try to write when I remember to... that is, when I think it's important. I forget my emotions very easily. Heh, maybe I'm bi-polar ¦¬Þ (hell, that might actually be true).

But yeah... I save a lot of tidbits. I want to remember how I felt, whether it's just to remind me "hey... it ended well, perhaps I over-reacted. I'll just cool it this time", or then there are those sorry-ass times when you just want to look at your past out of depression. Seriously, reflecting about past emotions can help. Then again, it can screw you up if you think too hard about it.



So, remember how you feel, disect it, but don't dwell on it.

[thatmariolover]

"Anyway...drinking is fun as long as you keep yourself under control..."

I think that's the important thing. As for PureEvil's comment, well, I don't think there's any risk of me being an alcoholic. I made a mistake and that was that. I'll just have to be more responsible next time.

You know, it's funny. I always grew up avoiding smoking and alcohol (to the point that I just thought they were evil). I still don't smoke, but now I've drank.

Drinking is stupid if you're not in control. I wasn't in control. I was stupid. All you good boys and girls, stay good boys and girls.

Originally Posted by Vampyr

My g/f dumped me a couple weeks ago also, but I did not drink her away. What I did was slept, and typed. You might want to try it, thatmariolover. Just open Microsoft Word and start typing. Type about how you feel, you will be impressed with what you come up with. Another reason for doing this is that I did not want to forget how I felt during those moments of grief. She was my first g/f ever, and I wanted to be able to come back later and remember how I felt.

It also helps to tell other people how you feel.

Yeah. I'm over it now. I feel better. I called her up a week ago and told her how I felt. I wrote a lot, I talked enough, I wallowed in my own self pity a considerable amount. And now I'm over it. I just needed to feel the pain and get it out of my system. I'm just glad it got over when it did.