Hypothetical Question:

[KillerGremlin]

Wedding Invitations via Facebook:

Acceptable or Not Acceptable.

I ask because members of my current generation are starting to get engaged and stuff, and I'm sure it is going to happen where we start seeing invitations on Facebook.

[Bond]

Not acceptable. A wedding invitation over Facebook shows no class and is lame.

[Nighthawk]

It's just stupid

[Swan]

Completely agree.


And the bride tends to like the invitation and keep one as a memento

[Typhoid]

It's a wedding, not a fucking BBQ.

I'm noticing that in the times of so many mediums of conversation, people are still sticking to "normal" ways of doing traditional things. For the most part people still break up and get engaged face-to-face, so hopefully most of them will realize wedding invitations have to be sent non-electronically.




Totally unrelated: Why the hell is it that the "older" generations (IE: All of our parents) type like 12 year old asian girls when they finally take up the internet?
I just saw a comment my mom made to my sister on Facebook and suddenly hate life.

[KillerGremlin]

The thing that's crazy is people DO breakup over Facebook...and people do get upset over relationship statuses on Facebook. Facebook has become this social measurement for people, people really take things seriously.

I think it's kind of weird even when I see wedding photos on Facebook...it's like you're crossing something incredibly intimate with something kind of dumb and disposable (as we found out in Bond's Facebook-getting-hacked-thread).

I'm gonna open up my own Facebook counseling center for couples with domestic Facebook disputes.

Originally Posted by Typhoid

Totally unrelated: Why the hell is it that the "older" generations (IE: All of our parents) type like 12 year old asian girls when they finally take up the internet?
I just saw a comment my mom made to my sister on Facebook and suddenly hate life.

I agree btw...older people have a hard time conversing via the Interwebz.

[Bond]

Originally Posted by Typhoid

Totally unrelated: Why the hell is it that the "older" generations (IE: All of our parents) type like 12 year old asian girls when they finally take up the internet?
I just saw a comment my mom made to my sister on Facebook and suddenly hate life.

I've noticed this as well.

Honestly, once internet websites / applications reach critical mass, it is time to abandon ship.

[BreakABone]

To the original question, I think it would be tasteless and in many ways disrespectful to your guest as it makes it seem thrown together. I mean you use Facebook for like social events like parties or a beach or a BBQ. A wedding is pretty friggin big deal.

Hell I have friends who are planning their wedding for next year and the year after, if they pulled that crap probably would feel cheated.

To Typhoid's question, I don't think its just a parental thing, I think most people are introduced to the net in that lingo, I'm not ashamed to say when I first used the net I use to speak like that (Except the Z at the end of a word I hate that SO SO SO much)

As for Facebook, we had a saying in school, "If it ain't on Facebook, its not official." It was a joke at the time because it was relatively new and WAY before they started the feed and crap, but now it seems like big news. Some of my friends update their life on the damn thing... a trend I am starting to hate is when folks are like Goodnight/Good morning facebook.... like anyone cares.

[manasecret]

I agree with everyone here. I think you should treat your wedding with a little more respect than your drunken birthday party.

Of course, maybe using facebook as a pre-pre-invite, so that it's not a replacement of the physical invitations would be acceptable for me. Though I think that's skirting the heart of the question.

But on the other side, we just received this (IMHO) ridiculous wedding invitation that has this bow at the top of the card so the envelope is like half an inch thick at one part and looks ridiculous. I think some people go too far with their weddings.

[thatmariolover]

Certainly you could have an event on Facebook, but it's completely classless if it replaces actual invitations instead of supplementing them.

[Dylflon]

Saves you so much moeny on stupid invitations.


Acceptable.

[DeathsHand]

Originally Posted by Dylflon

Saves you so much moeny on stupid invitations.

And the risk of accidentally poisoning your fiancée.

[Typhoid]

Originally Posted by Dylflon

Saves you so much moeny on stupid invitations.


Acceptable.

Why even have a ceremony at all, when you can get e-married by an e-priest. (No, really.)
Think about the money you'd save, it's only your wedding, afterall.

[Dylflon]

Originally Posted by Typhoid

Why even have a ceremony at all, when you can get e-married by an e-priest. (No, really.)
Think about the money you'd save, it's only your wedding, afterall.

To revise my thoughts: send proper invitations to family members, etc.

Facebook or telephone invite your other guests and provide info through e-mail or Facebook.


Comparing invitations to the ceremony isn't really apt.

I find that too much importance is placed on the invitation cards.


Oh, and to get a woman's opinion: my girlfriend and I had this discussion a couple weeks ago and she holds the stance that Facebook inviting to a wedding would be practical. And this is a woman who is obsessed with weddings and will end up costing me and her family ridiculous amounts of money when wedding time comes around.

[Typhoid]

Comparing invitations to the ceremony isn't really apt.

I was moreso doing it in a "saving money" aspect.



The reason I don't see a big deal with sending out an invitation to every person at my wedding, is because I don't plan on inviting every single person I've spoken less than 10 words to in the past 3 years to. It depends on the size of the party you wish to invite. I only want close friends and family, so it wouldn't be a big deal to send out cards, personally.