Typhoid's Advice Column

[Typhoid]

Originally Posted by KillerGremlin

Dear Typhoid,

Today I had an interesting discussion with someone who is in an open relationship. A polyamorous relationship...if you will. Now I am quite happy in my monogamous relationship and have no plans of changing that. I realized that my life is somewhat normal, so I was wondering if you think Polyamory can work in general or if it is doomed from the start. I find this subject intriguing since I plan to go into couples counseling.

You wettest, greenest, and fed after midnight,
KillerGremlin

Dear KG,

I think more than one 'partner' - if you will, is a good idea if you're around the age of 21. However, this all changes if you're with someone who you'd enjoy being with the rest of your life. I believe it can work, only if your set values and morals fit that lifestyle. It isn't something you can really spring on someone when they're 24 by segueing in with "Oh...by the way...". Realistically I think the preference goes person-to-person. Maybe some are born with the want of multiple partners/families at once, or maybe some want it for various reasons such as family, power, or no reason at all. Of course, that goes for monogamy as well. I think deep down we're monogamous. If we're not traumatized and have no underlying psychological problems, I believe monogamy is what everyone wants. Most 'sane' and credible people are married to only one person at a time. Does this give it validity? Not really. That just makes it normal for us, and for our culture. It's not really something you can talk someone into, or out of. And if you can, God help us all.

- Fear and Loathingly yours, Typh.